This has already happened to me countless times!

I have gotten fully drained in a conversation, even on the phone…

Then I decided to pick up a book and read about it.

Here’s what I learned…

Types of ‘energy vampires’ that you find in everyday life:

◊  The Chronic Talker has a ‘motor mouth’ that doesn’t stop talking, hardly breathes. Staying with her and listening to her is super exhaustive.

◊ ’Garlic’ that you should use for this type of vampire: “I’m sorry, I have to go to the bathroom.

◊ The Sob Sister – A whiner who loves a captive audience. She is not interested in the solution, she just wants to vent and vent.

◊ The type of garlic that you should use: “I love you very much, but unless you want a solution, I’ve just got five minutes to listen.”

◊ The Blamer – This is the person who is always saying: “If it were not for you, we would not be in this mess.”.

◊ Garlic: don’t apologize or agree with the person. Gently but firmly, say: “when you talk like that hurts my feelings, please stop.”

◊ The Controller – This vampire likes to tell you (and and everyone else too) what to do.

◊ Garlic: Never try to control a controller. Speak up but don’t make it a big deal of it. Just state your needs by saying, “I appreciate your advice and warnings, but I would like to solve this on my own.” Then say it again, because with this type of species, and repetition is the key.

◊ Go-For-The-Jugular Friend: Wildly ambitious, this type of vampire cuts you down to build herself up.

◊ Garlic: try to remove that person from your life if you can’t, do not react to her zingers because what she wants is to see your expression of horror. Instead, visualize a protective armor around you, so her toxic comments can’t get to your gut.

Do livro: “Emotinal Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions” autora Judith Orloff

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And I’m talking about the Flea market… Because if you want to go, and are a novice on the subject, it’s good to know how to use your dollars wisely.

♦ First tip: do not waste time looking for things of value on the dusty shelves and countertops. I stay far away, because I’m totally allergic to dust… (and overspending).

Experienced sellers expose things that have some value, as visible as possible to the public. They’re right, aren’t they? I would do the same.

♦ Do not expect perfection in this kind of place. These types of markets sell second hand or even third hand things. So don’t point out defects in objects, trying to get a discount, it makes it sound like you’re saying that the seller is a dishonest person.

♦ Learn to haggle – Many people get tongue tied when it comes to negotiating. Keep it simple…

Do it this way, it’s very simple, say: “This is what I’m prepared to pay. You can part with it for X dollars? And then give your starting price, which shouldn’t be ridiculously low.

Never say “I don’t want to pay that much” or “I really I don’t need it,” as though it would compel the seller to lower the price…

Sellers are much more willing to lower the price, to someone they feel, that really are interested in their wares. So act as if you really want it rather than dismissing it as overpriced junk.

♦ Last tip – Get on the vendor’s good side, especially if you visit these places frequently.

If you have a kind of  ’friendship’ with him, you can get the best discounts… after all, and you’re a customer who always comes back…

They will even separate items that they think you’ll like.

If you only go once in a while to these places, talk to him about similar tastes and stories of the item you’re interested in before you start negotiating.

And don’t forget: if the subject here is $$. A bargain is not a bargain, unless you need it.

I can’t stop thinking that when I published “The Most Beautiful Post”, one of the reasons I liked this idea so much was…

Sure, you all know I like to reuse and recycle… that is ancient.

But these jars have a special value in American history, and the challenge of introducing the past into present is something very fascinating to me!

Especially, when eco-friendly, beautifully displayed and very useful.

And the jars of this chandelier, here called “Mason Jars”, were introduced in 1858, by a simple citizen, John Mason, who invented the type of cap to twist and close. A simple idea but so useful as well, that even during the Great Depression in the ’30s, his company did not have to fire even one employee, as queues of the unemployed over the whole country were waiting for a plate of food.

In the story of the past, the writers themselves, those who are living, could never imagine…

But what do I mean by that, anyway…?

That this history has painted my heart?

Yes of course, but it also seems that the past, has the same amount of imagination that the future has.

I fully agree with what Jay Shafer, one of the builders of this type of habitation said: “Since I moved to a tiny house, my life opened up. It has less maintenance, care and repair, lower mortgage, less waste – and more time to live.”

To which I add: they reduce their ‘footprint’ on the planet, much less accumulation of things, force us to live with only what we need and love, letting go of all the rest.

You can buy a tiny house for only $ 20,000 or $ 495 for the plans and build it yourself.

Below, there is a video showing how to do it.

With the continued rising cost of energy, depending on where you live, they are also easier to be kept warm, or cold.

As no one is getting younger, it is less painful to keep clean.

Building permits are not necessary.

In Texas, one of the companies that builds them, uses recycled wood.

One of these builders in California, lives in the house below. And you can buy one just like it for $45,997 or build it yourself for $19,950.

http://www.tumbleweedhouses.com/houses/epu/

Now the video:

Isn’t it so much better to live in simplicity?