No More Vampires

Friday, July 30th, 2010 at 2:31 pm

This has already happened to me countless times!

I have gotten fully drained in a conversation, even on the phone…

Then I decided to pick up a book and read about it.

Here’s what I learned…

Types of ‘energy vampires’ that you find in everyday life:

◊ The Chronic Talker has a ‘motor mouth’ that doesn’t stop talking, hardly breathes. Staying with her and listening to her is super exhaustive.

◊ ’Garlic’ that you should use for this type of vampire: “I’m sorry, I have to go to the bathroom.

◊ The Sob Sister – A whiner who loves a captive audience. She is not interested in the solution, she just wants to vent and vent.

◊ The type of garlic that you should use: “I love you very much, but unless you want a solution, I’ve just got five minutes to listen.”

◊ The Blamer – This is the person who is always saying: “If it were not for you, we would not be in this mess.”.

◊ Garlic: don’t apologize or agree with the person. Gently but firmly, say: “when you talk like that hurts my feelings, please stop.”

◊ The Controller – This vampire likes to tell you (and and everyone else too) what to do.

◊ Garlic: Never try to control a controller. Speak up but don’t make it a big deal of it. Just state your needs by saying, “I appreciate your advice and warnings, but I would like to solve this on my own.” Then say it again, because with this type of species, and repetition is the key.

◊ Go-For-The-Jugular Friend: Wildly ambitious, this type of vampire cuts you down to build herself up.

◊ Garlic: try to remove that person from your life if you can’t, do not react to her zingers because what she wants is to see your expression of horror. Instead, visualize a protective armor around you, so her toxic comments can’t get to your gut.

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