“Holidays” without Pain

Death and separation leave pain in people’s hearts no one can heal.

Even though as they say ‘time is the best medicine’, months go by and the pain comes back far worse, because… Christmas has come.

Always remember: love does not end with separation or death (and for both sides, I believe).

Tips for the Christmas season from nurses and staff of the Methodist Hospital, where a friend works here in Houston.

♥ Be tolerant with yourself during the ‘Holiday’ season. At this time feelings of grief, sorrow and separation are renewed.

♥ Do not be afraid to express your feelings. Ignoring them will not make them disappear, being open about them makes you feel better.

♥ Do what program is best for you. True friends and family often recommend what’s best for you during this time. Focus on what you want to do.

♥ Good memories help in the healing process. Rather than ignore them, share them with friends. If they make you laugh, smile, if they bring you sadness, it’s alright to cry.

♥ Decide what traditions you want to continue and identify new ones you would like to begin. Anticipating activities rather than just reacting to situations, reduces panic, fear and anxiety when your feelings of grief are already heightened.

♥ Grief is both a necessity and a privilege. It comes as the result of giving and receiving love. Love yourself. Be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to be surrounded by loving, caring people.

Share this with your friends.

Many many thanks! ♥

Joy is not in things, it’s in us!

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